Translated by AI

The attachment between Xiao Tao and Gu Ben in "Jiyi Kawwa" is indeed thought-provoking.

Initially, considering their personalities, Xiao Tao is a very demanding character, who requires attention and care in all aspects of life, while Gu Ben is emotionally stable, introverted, and composed. From his management of a bookstore, we can also infer that he possesses a richly complex inner world.

When these two individuals connect, Xiao Tao often brings trouble to Gu Ben for various reasons. Through their interactions, they become what others consider friends, especially since Gu Ben cooks, giving our food-loving Xiao Tao a stable source of meals. Gu Ben is quite well-off in his self-sufficient state. With his intelligence, he would definitely understand how to refuse Xiao Tao's troublesome demands if he disliked them, yet he doesn't, and instead, he willingly assumes the responsibility of caring for Xiao Tao after several interactions. From this, we can deduce the following objective fact: Gu Ben seeks to experience the feeling of being loved within the friendship by caring for Xiao Tao. In many attachment relationships, one party does not demand love through asking but through giving. For them, being needed provides the sense of being loved.

"Because of your presence, my world began to have color."

For Gu Ben, a routine life living alone did not seem problematic, but Xiao Tao's sudden commands and demands—high-demand behavior requiring the other's high attention in an attachment relationship—are actually unintentional expressions of intimacy. Xiao Tao is merely expressing his form of love, and Gu Ben successfully catches these emotions and responds.

Therefore, although in many relationships the giver seems more proactive, Xiao Tao's consistent refusals and demands position him as the more assertive party in the relationship.

The need-and-be-needed relationship from Xiao Tao's initial choice of Gu Ben was never quite what it appeared. Isn't it true that Gu Ben is actually the one who needs?

Sometimes we worry whether our expressions of love and being loved are accepted or appreciated, but just like when Xiao Tao met Gu Ben, every relationship has moments where everything falls into place.

The purpose of writing this article is to acknowledge how we present ourselves when being loved and loving others because true love will emerge from within that understanding.

Let us hope that we don't question our appearance when loved and find someone who can genuinely catch us, irrespective of whether we're in the role of needing or being needed.